'Go Big or Go Home' is a phrase most of us have heard, possibly used. The origin of the comment is unclear, with internet searches leading to a phrase used by bomber pilots to referencing motorcycle exhaust systems on the west coast. Regardless, how do you interpret the phrase?
Does it mean: 'Go Big...you have nothing to lose so go all in!' or from your perspective do you get more of a calling out on your skills with an 'if you can't go big to certain specifications, take your sorry behind home.' ? This truly lies in your perspective.
I used to be more of the later. I questioned everything I did and how it would be perceived. I didn't want to take a chance if I didn't have a concrete plan with multiple default back up plans as a safety net. My self-esteem was so low that the only thing that could limbo under it was my depression. No joke, that was me, for years even if no one saw how I was feeling.
Today, I am definitely the former. I fly by the seat of my non-existent pants (I mostly wear skirts). I have seen my rock bottom and know I have nothing to lose by going all in on my dreams. I am worth it. My ideas are valid...and gosh darn it, people like me. (I literally laughed out loud as I typed that.)
I don't want you to hit rock bottom before you realize your worth. You have permission to Go Big at anytime, in your own way. How you choose to see your life is wholly up to you. And what you choose to do after you Go Big is part of your journey, utilize it.
For me I had to learn the importance of both my Big and my home. Now, I love to Go Big AND Go Home. My home is where I can be fully myself without limitations. I can sing, dance, think, cry - whatever I need to do in order to work through my personal creative processes. Taking time for me, alone in my room listening to music and journaling or reading (just like I did in high school), isn't selfish. This small act allows me to function better in every other area of my life.
Your 'home' in this scenario could be reading at a local coffee shop, getting in the gym, or literally going to your parent's house to visit - whatever gives your soul a burst of vitality! Do that and keep working toward your goals. And the next time someone gives you a 'Go Big or Go Home' feel free to tell them you are happy to do both.
Charmaine N. Houck
Advocate of Adventure