I used to let these feelings of 'non acceptance' hit me hard. Questioning why I wasn't good enough or what made others of the same caliber, seemingly, better than myself. Luckily, time, age, life, and wisdom have helped me see past the initial shock and pain.
I have friends who are part of the groups I want to belong to and my non acceptance doesn't hinder our relationship. If anything, it makes me a great resource to them to see things from an outside perspective and they give me insight into the group. It has become a peer-to-peer style of mentoring beyond our already established friendship.
My acceptance of non acceptance has allowed me to create a wider networking area, produce greater relationships among multiple industries, and be seen as a great supporter of others.
I am pretty happy with my personal brand. And if I really want a group, I am happy to start my own. (Have you heard of Midwest Maidens Roller Derby or Brookings Girls Pint Out?) I have built tribes and become integral parts of other tribes in my life. As a life-long wanderer, it seems only appropriate that I have found 'home' in many places and with different people across the world. It has built my skills, experience, and character.
If you are still searching for your tribe, or a new tribe, don't be discouraged. You are right where you are meant to be. Live and speak your truth, be authentic, and allow others to truly know you, the ones who are meant to stick around will, across time and space.
Charmaine N. Houck
Advocate of Adventure