In an ideal situation, we would all have mentors in every important area of our lives, from finances to career growth and parenting to retirement planning, but let's start small.
Choose an area of your life you would like to improve and search out a mentor with wisdom on that topic first. If you choose to focus on your health and exercise and have a sister-in-law who teaches fitness courses (like I do), it makes for a very easy first mentor. Look to family and friends who are excelling in the area you would like to focus on and reach out to them with your questions. Remember, we are all busy so give them time to reply or attempt to make a lunch date to talk at their convenience.
The best way to be a mentee is to ask specific questions and then listen, research, and learn from the time, wisdom, and resources you have been given. Then make sure to give of this new knowledge to others. Mentoring others promotes your own growth and success by focusing your skills and strengths and giving you a fresh outlook on the topics.
If you are looking to start today, here are my tips:
1. Choose an area of your life to improve.
2. Make a list of at least three people you could ask for advice on this topic.
3. List five questions you have on the topic you believe would help you improve.
4. Reach out, ask the questions, evaluate the information you have been given and then set SMART goals to achieve a new, quantifiable level in your endeavor.
1. I want to eat healthier and work out more, but don't know where to start.
2. My Sister-in-law, a friend who works out a lot, my doctor
a. Is breakfast a really important meal? I don't usually eat breakfast, should I ?
b. Is it better to be active in cardio or weightlifting?
c. What apps do you recommend for counting calories?
d. I have a knee injury, should I stay away from certain activities?
e. Exactly how much water should I be drinking?
4. Time to email, call, text, etc. You can ask each person a few questions or ask all the questions to one individual, either way - Listen, Research, and Learn...and make sure to say 'Thank you!' Take one step you have learned and begin to implement it into your life, then another, and another as you are comfortable or begin again and reach out for more knowledge. Share the knowledge and enjoy a 'level up' in life.
Charmaine N. Houck
Advocate of Adventure