“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
― Frank Herbert, Dune
This is my favorite quote on fear! So how do we face our fear head on and remain standing?
1. Make a list of your fears - relationship, career, life...just write them out.
2. Define the underlying feeling - is it a fear of pain, loss, failure, shame, rejection? Give each fear a category.
3. Analyze - what is the most common theme in your fears?
When I did this, the common fears were vulnerability and failure. I was scared to show others who I was, what I stood for, and what I was passionate about. In that, I feared myself and failure was a form of rejection or lack of worth.
Now that you have your theme, what are you going to do about it? Would you benefit from self-love therapy? Do you need to re-build a bridge? Ask for forgiveness? Take that first step towards your goal? Make your plan to face your fears. Your light was meant to shine!
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"
Charmaine N. Houck
Advocate of Adventure